Writing a eulogy is a meaningful way to honor a loved one and share the story of their life with family and friends. Although it can feel overwhelming to put memories into words while grieving, a heartfelt tribute can bring comfort, spark fond memories, and highlight the moments that made your loved one so special. At Schertz-Cibolo Funeral Home, we support families through this emotional task by offering guidance to help them write a eulogy that feels sincere, thoughtful, and personal.

A well-written eulogy does not need to be perfect. It simply needs to be genuine and come from the heart.

What Is a Eulogy?

A eulogy is a speech given at a funeral or memorial service to honor and celebrate the life of the person who has passed away. It often includes:

• Special memories and life stories
• Personal qualities and values
• Moments that reflect their character
• The impact they had on others

Eulogies can be emotional, uplifting, humorous, or a mix of all three. There is no single right way to write one.

How to Begin Writing a Eulogy

Getting started is often the hardest part. Here are steps that can help:

1. Gather Information
   Speak with close family and friends to learn meaningful stories, favorite sayings, achievements, and traditions that defined your loved one.
2. Choose a Theme or Focus
   You may decide to highlight the person’s kindness, humor, dedication to family, career, faith, or special passions. A theme helps the eulogy feel connected and intentional.
3. Organize Your Thoughts
   Create a simple outline. A common structure includes:

• Introduction
• Early life and background
• Family and relationships
• Personality and values
• Memorable stories or lessons learned
• Closing words of comfort or gratitude

Starting with a structure can make the process feel more manageable.

Ideas to Include in a Meaningful Eulogy

Many people worry about what to say. The following ideas can help spark meaningful content:

Consider including:

• A favorite memory or funny moment that reflects their personality
• Lessons they taught you or others
• Their hobbies, passions, or traditions they loved
• The way they made others feel
• Something they were known for, such as a phrase, routine, or talent

Avoid focusing only on accomplishments.
Small, everyday moments often leave the greatest impact.

Short Examples to Help Inspire You

Reading sample approaches can help you discover your own tone. Below are three simple examples of styles families often choose:

Heartfelt and Reflective:

Example: Share emotional memories and lessons they left behind

When It Works Best: Close family members or emotional services

Lighthearted with Warm Humor:

Example: Include sweet, funny stories that capture their personality

When It Works Best: Loved ones known for joy, laughter, or charm

Inspirational

Example: Focus on their impact, legacy, faith, or life journey

When It Works Best: Religious, spiritual, or community-centered services

Choose the tone that feels most true to your loved one.

Tips for Delivering a Eulogy with Confidence

Even when the words are ready, speaking in front of others can feel intimidating, especially during grief. These tips may help:

• Take slow breaths before speaking
• Practice reading it aloud a few times
• Bring a printed copy, even if you know it well
• Speak slowly and allow yourself to pause
• It is okay to show emotion; tears are natural
• If needed, ask someone to stand by your side for support

Remember, you are surrounded by people who care and understand.

Common Mistakes to Avoid

To ensure your eulogy feels sincere and meaningful, try to avoid:

• Making it too long or too short (aim for 3 to 7 minutes)
• Focusing only on dates and facts rather than personal memories
• Comparing grief or experiences between family members
• Feeling pressure to be perfect

Eulogies are most powerful when they feel honest and heartfelt.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long should a eulogy be?
Most eulogies last between 3 and 7 minutes. This allows time to share meaningful memories without overwhelming guests.

Can more than one person deliver a eulogy?
Yes. Families may choose one speaker or several. Some services include two to four eulogies from family or close friends.

What if I become emotional while speaking?
It is completely normal. Take a moment to breathe or pause. The audience understands and supports you.

Is it appropriate to include humor?
If humor reflects your loved one, it can be a beautiful way to honor them. Light, respectful stories are often appreciated.

Can I write a eulogy if I did not know the person well?
Yes. Focus on what you learned from family, their core values, or the impact they had on loved ones. Keeping it simple and respectful is key.

Should I share personal or private stories?
Choose stories that are meaningful but appropriate for all guests, including children and elders.



Can Schertz-Cibolo Funeral Home help me with the writing process?
Yes. Our team can provide guidance, examples, and support if you are unsure where to begin.

Writing a eulogy is a special way to honor a loved one’s memory and share the legacy they leave behind. At Schertz-Cibolo Funeral Home, we are here to support you in creating a tribute that feels personal, heartfelt, and meaningful for everyone who gathers to remember and celebrate their life.